This post is ALL about boundaries and drawing lines. This blog will always come from a personal standpoint because I can only speak what I know honey. Now raise your hand if you have ever been victimized by your own self for allowing something to occur once and it began to continue. Go ahead raise them high, nobody can see you. Let me go ahead and put both of my hands in the air.

Now just a while ago my best friend gave me an ear full about what I allow someone to do will continue as long as I let it. My philosophy is if you let somebody slide once, eventually they will start figure skating. My personal issue within myself is that I let a lot of negative things continue and then complain about them, I know this is something I need to work on. How many times have you personally allowed somebody to do you foul or slightly wrong but you let that behavior carry out? Why because they apologized, they “made” up for it, oh wait let me guess, they promised you they wouldn’t “do it anymore”. Then what happened? They did again right, or or hear me out they did something worse. Do something once it’s a mistake, do it twice its a decision. At what point do YOU put your foot down and draw a line? You are not obligated to put up with anyone’s behavior that does not add value to your life or does not bring you joy. Sis this goes for men, friends, family, whoever. If the shoe fits lace it on up and wear it.

Prime example, I used to date this guy right…and when I tell you it was ALWAYS something. Chilleee I’ve never seen somebody have to apologize so much in my life. The man said sorry so much I started thinking it was the only word in his vocabulary. He would do something dumb and I would get mad, got off, not talk to him for a couple days. Then what, he’d send me some long drawn out apology, buy me a gift and girl where was I………….right back with him. It would happen every week, month, damn near everyday. Now here go my friends “girl drop him, its always something”….and here I go talking about “but I love him”. Let me tell ya’ll I was a full time student at Clown University majoring in How Stupid Can I Be with a minor in But I Love Him. At this point I was top 10 in the class with a 4.0…..looking back now somebody should’ve went upside my head.

Eventually ya girl got tired. I looked back and realized that the ONLY reason my mans was doing all this dirt was because he KNEW exactly what it would take to keep me around. He had me down to science. He knew what to say, what to do and what to buy to reel me back in. Ya’ll not only was he playing me but I was playing myself. Anytime you see red flags and repeated behavior and you chose to stay the man is no longer playing you, sis you are OFFICIALLY playing yourself. This is what I mean when I say what you allow is what will continue. If you’re reading this and you feel like I just read you then sis please get up and get yourself together. Do not allow ANYBODY to play you, do not play yourself. This does not just apply to men (although most of the time it does). Take a good look at your life and who is around you. Look at those red flags. How many times have you expressed to someone that their behavior with you is unacceptable. I have a one and done policy these days. If I tell you how I feel once and you don’t change guess what? I’m done and honeyyy and so are YOU! Do not explain yourself, do not repeat yourself. Last time I checked caskets do not have bunk beds therefore you do not need anybody to get through life. Stop accepting mediocrity from people because you feel you are obligated to.

You can miss out on the people that want to and can add value to your life by focusing on those that don’t. If he don’t wanna act right then guess what sis….he can get L E F T! If your friends and family don’t want to act right then they can get left too. Don’t allow anybody to treat you less than you deserve. Demand your respect, be conscious of who you let enter and how long they stay in your life.

XOXO – Junie