I’m listening to 2014 Forest Hills Drive as I write, so I want y’all to know that tonight’s blog is going to be fire.

First off, shout out to my Fed for giving me tonight’s blog topic because lord knows I was drawing blanks on what to talk about. @Supo__ go follow my good sis on twitter.

“Know your worth, then add tax”. I see/use this saying so much. Just recently I had to stop and ask myself how can I add tax on my worth when I’m not even 100% sure what my worth is. In order to know your worth you have to know yourself, and honestly speaking most of ya’ll don’t. We often equate our worth to what we feel we deserve from men….but sis your worth goes further than that…..WAY further. This isn’t about a man, or what you think everyone else sees as your worth…..this is about YOU.

What makes you happy? Where do you want to be in the next 5,10,20 years? Who are you? What type of person so you aspire to be? These are questions that take you on a road to self-discovery. You have have to be fully aware of who you are as an individual to know your worth. Sis, evaluate yourself. Identify your character traits, live in your truth, recognize your flaws, your strengths. Be honest with yourself about who you are and what you want in life. Only then will you truly start living and flourishing.

Lately I have been doing a lot of self discovery. In the past 2 years I’ve been through some painful shit that honestly left me now knowing who I was, what I deserved, or what I wanted in life anymore. Pain will change you. After losing my dad, grandma and other people close to me I felt like I didn’t know who Danielle was. I no longer had a clue of my identity and I had toxic coping methods for everything I was going through. All I did was drink, blame other people for what was going wrong with me, entertain toxic men and shut out anybody who was trying to bring me back to reality.

Eventually I had to wake tf up and realize that me not knowing exactly who I was, was a personal problem that I was going to have to face alone and fix alone. That’s when I started journaling, meditating, reading, studying myself, crying, asking myself the necessary questions. Danielle started to learn who Danielle was. Hell I’m still learning. I learned that I am not what I thought I was at all. For those of you reading this that are on your road to self discovery please know it’s not a race. Give yourself time, assess your childhood, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself for things you have done, make mistakes, love yourself sis.

This journey will not be easy, but it will be rewarding. Take time to be alone and meditate. Read books that help on your journey. Surround yourself with people that want to see you be the best you possible. Journal, read a devotional daily, pray and ask God to order your steps. By all means please love where you are at this very moment in your journey. If I have learned one thing over time it is that you have to appreciate where you are in order to truly enjoy where you are going. I am still on my journey in figuring out exactly who I am. Sometimes it gets tiring and I wanna give up. I get frustrated with myself for doing things I know I shouldn’t but it’s a part of MY story and MY journey. Love your life unapologetically sis. Love every moment of it. You only get one life to live.