Watch them jokes your “friends” quick to toss around….there may be a little truth to them. Ask yourself a solid question…Are all of my friends R E A L L Y my friends or am I using the term too loosely? in my 25 years of living I have had my fair share of cutting “friends” off. I had to learn that not everybody is for you. It took me a long time to be able to identify what a friend truly was. I always thought friendships were based upon how long you’ve known someone. WRONG! Time means nothing, loyalty means everything. You can know someone for 2 month and they’ll show you more loyalty then someone you’ve known for 10 years. Over the years I have identified what I like to call the “Cut Off Points” the things I notice in someone that shows me “this person indefinitely is not my friend and they gotta go ASAP”. If you notice these traits in any of your “friends” I’m telling you do yourself a favor and move around…..

The “only call when they need something” Friend

This gotta be my pet peeve. That “friend” that can never call to check on you and see what you got going on. They literally only call when they need you. You know the friend that always needs to borrow bread, need a favor….but you can’t call and ask them for a damn thing if you were down bad. PSA: You’re being used, cut em off. period.

The “Let me call you and talk about all my other friends” friend

Wheww babbyyyy this gotta be thee worst one. This is the friend that calls you to drag they other people they supposed to be cool with. Let me fill you in on a little something. If they are calling you to talk about their other “friends” then what do you think they are saying about YOU to other people when they call them. Watch ya back with this one. distance yourself and keep them at arms length….they ain’t nobody you wanna be involved with honey.

The “I’m just joking” Friend

HA! This my FAVORITE one right here. Let me tell ya’ll something, its jealousy in them joke darling. This is the friend that always has something to say about you but turns it into a “joke”. You know the “Oh you got the new Yeezys they not even they cute…naw I’m jp”….”Oh you got a new crib….girl you know you can’t afford this…I’m jp”…..Watch these mfks. Ya’ll KNOW exactly the type of friend I’m referring to. The one that no matter how well you doing they always add a negative connotation but swear they joking. The only thing that’s a joke is ya’ll friendship. Move around.

The ” My bad i cant be there” Friend

How many of ya’ll have a friend that you never miss a big moment they have they seem to always have an excuse when you want them to be there for your big moment? That shit does not add up. The friend that never supports you, they always want a discount, they don’t encourage you. Pay attention, watch who doesn’t clap when you win. Now, given sometimes you cannot make everything. It’s okay to miss a couple of your friends moments if life interferes like work and family. I’m talking about the people that dead ass never root for you, never clap for you, never encourage you but ya’ll supposed to be friends….

The Victim

Jesus deliver me through this one as I type because my nerves are pinched. This the friend that I will kick off the island before anybody. The person that is always the victim…they just a saint and don’t do shit wrong. Ya’ll disagree and fall out and next thing you know ALL ya other friends calling you and looking at you like you the problem. Why? Because they done went and told the world that you are to blame for everything and they did nothing wrong. Chile….God see me through because this one right here……I would rather cut a tree down with a damn butter knife than to deal with this type of person. DO ya self a solid let the be a victim and leave them right where they at.

I could sit here ALL day and talk about toxic friendships but them it’s gone start getting a little personal lmao. I told God for the end of 2019 I would work on myself and be less shady. If you read these and felt like it described anybody you call a friend….do yourself a solid and evaluate your “friendship” do not go into 2020 with dead weight. You don’t owe loyalty to anybody that is not displaying it to you. Reciprocation is key my girl. Mae sure everybody in you boat is rowing and not drilling holes. A lot of ya’ll use that friend word real lose….tighten ya circle up sis.