Chileeeee men need to come with warning labels, instructions and a self help manual. The male species perplexes me in ways that honestly give me gray hair. They will make you crazy, then call you crazy. Raise your hand if you have ever looked at a male after he’s said something and this was your face

Let me tell ya’ll something, trying to figure a man out with have you adding 2+2 and coming back with 41. Today I got a few secrets for ya’ll that hopefully will make the man you’re dealing with or looking to deal with seem a little less complicated. Now, listen I am not an expert on men so if my advice don’t work then hell, don’t blame me. I’m just trying to drop a few gems to help my girls be less stressed. If a man has left you feeling the following ways then babe this is for you:

• Perplexed
• Led Astray
• Swindled
• Confused
• Run a muck
• Hoodwinked
• Deceived

• He is not going to communicate with you when his life in in shambles, baby he just gone disappear and come back when he got his life in order.

Men are NOT like us. They do not believe in oversharing or having therapy sessions with us. ESPECIALLY if ya’ll are not in a relationship. The philosophy of most men is “Why would I tell you what I am going through, it’s not like you can do anything to help”. As crazy as this sounds to us it is logical to them and ladies who are we to invalidate anyone’s logic. I have learned that when men are going through something they will disappear like Wesley Snipes when it’s time to do taxes. Honey you got 2 options if this happens to you. 1.) Go do ya thing and let him work his personal matters out. 2.) Cut him off and move tf on my girl. Them ya only two options, chose wisely.

• He only comes back because you let him, girl let ol reliable go

I don’t know who needs to hear this but baby he doesn’t miss you. He’s either bored, his main girl tweaking, or or hear me out…he trying to see if he can still bag you. Let O’l reliable go child, that man is a CLOWN. Ya’ll love to say ” he always come back”….and why do you think that is miss mamas? BECAUSE YOU KEEP LEAVING THE DAMN DOOR OPEN. Honey listen to me, change the locks, block him….MOVE ON. You gone be an option for the next 10 years and you out here making him a priority. Girl, bye….ask yourself this..

When am I going to take my clown nose off and leave the circus? Ya’ll be out here looking like Bozo Jr. answering the phone for a man that only calls when he “need something”. This how ya’ll be looking opening the door for him

• A hit dog gone always holla

A boy gone always get defensive when the truth is placed in front him. Boys hate accountability honey. Look back at what I said a “boy”. get you a MAN sis! it’s a big difference. When a boy gets called out for his actions he gone instantly defend why you “tweaking”. A MAN, baby a man gone take responsibility for where he went wrong. Learn the difference my girl.

• He actually likes you, he just scared to admit it because his 7th grade gf cheated on him

Sometimes men try to keep themsleves from expressing how much they like us. Men have severe trust issues. We as women think they fear commitment, in which they do. Men fear comitment at a higher level than us. Now hear me out.

As women we fall in love faster than me. Say you fall in love and ya’ll break up right, you’ll come back quicker from the break up and can be completely happy in a new relationship months later. Men on the other hand let them get in a relationship and break up. That man gone take forever to trust another woman and get in another relationship. You might see him with various women but I can GUARANTEE it’s going to take him a lifetime to commit to someone else. So when a man begins to like someone he has to go through all the stages of ensuring that he actually likes you. Pay attention to that mans action my girl, It’s gone tell you more than his words ever will. If you really like him be patient and let things happen organically. DO NOT force them. I promise you sis give that man time he gone be yours! Just be you and let God handle the rest. Remember, you can’t miss no blessing that for you. Therefore if you miss him, he wasn’t for you.

• Girl that’s a grown man, he is NOT one of them

Now ma’am this right here is the ONE! When you get a grown man baby you will know. There won’t be any games, miscommunication, leading you on..NONE OF THAT. A grown man gone tell you what it is and what it ain’t. Now what you can’t do is treat that grown man how you treated those peasants from your past. Here’s some facts about grown men:

• That man is BUSY, stop blowing his phone up. Baby that man has a J O B. he not out in the streets. He gone call you, chill out and relax.
• He gone tell you how we coming. Stop trying to create your own conclusions. Grown men don’t leave room for assumptions. he gone make sure you KNOW what his intentions are.
• Don’t tweak. Grown men not gone play them games ya lil side boys play. One wrong move and Unc gone be done with you. Think smart sis, don’t fumble.
• Ask what you wanna know. Grown men actively communicate. talk to him miss mamas. Stop asking your friends what they think he on, girl ask him.

• Rule #568 You CANNOT like him until he asks you to marry him

My last gem for the night because I’m tired and ready to take a bath, get in my bed and watch P-Valley. Sis, you can’t like him until ya’ll at the alter. STOP doing girlfriend things when you not in a relationship. It’s okay to show him that you’re interested but don’t over do it. Why would he buy a cow when he getting the milk for free? Take it easy ma’am, don’t do too much, but don’t do too little. Keep your actions at a certain level. It’s cool to show interest but see what his intentions are and how his actions matching up before you get too happy. Intentions should match pursuit and actions should match intentions.